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Online Dating 101
by Kevin Koger
Feeling like there’s something that’s just not quite there yet in how you’re going about this total online dating thing? Don’t feel terrible , chances are you’re one of the many people who’re still pretty new to this gig. Heck, internet dating has only been around for about eight years, so obviously no one out there can claim to have all the answers.
But hey, seeing that we’ve been perfecting the art of matching people up online all eight of those years, we’d like to share a small of what we’ve learned about how to make the best of your online experience. Who knows, one of these pointers might be just what you’ve been missing in perfecting your own online dating adventures.
Therefore, without further ramblings, here are the:
TOP 10 TIPS FOR SUCCESSFUL ONLINE DATING
SAY CHEESE!
Look your best and submit a fantastic photo of yourself for your profile photo. A excellent picture really is value a thousand terms , and research shows that you are nearly 10 times more likely to be noticed if you post a photo to your profile.
And, the same stats hold right when you contact someone you’ve noticed on the site. If you don’t have a photo, don’t be surprised if the responses aren’t too quick in coming back.
Now, don’t get mad a start building accusations about all the shallow people out there. While it may be right that some people place too much emphasis on physical appearances, the bottom line is it does make a difference when two people are meeting and building early evaluations of their interest in each other. And, it’s also a trust thing. It is always going to be much simpler to interact with a face than with a blank box.
FRESH IS Excellent
Change your profile picture and greeting occasionally, add photos to your photo album, and login regularly—this will not only get you noticed, but it will help others get a more varied and up-to-date thought of what constitutes the real you.
When something fascinating happens in your life, tell us about it in your profile greeting. This is a fantastic way to let your online friends in on what it might be like to really waste time with you. That’s the main goal of online dating isn’t it, to find people you’d finally like to meet and waste time with face-to-face? Anyways, it’s always more fun to hear about a crazy experience you’ve just had than to read the same ancient descriptions of you and your cat that have been on your profile for months now.
As for photo albums, this is the icing on the cake. Not only do these photos round out and confirm the physical picture your friends are forming of you, but they also go a long way in helping others really see what makes you “you.” The head and shoulders shot of you in your profile photo is nice and all, but when they see you hanging 10, running with your Chihuahua, or shoving a huge stout piece of cheesecake in your mouth … now they’re being paid to know you.
I HAVE CONFIDENCE IN ME
Have fun describing yourself without building excuses about why you’re on the site or who convinced you to finally go online. Tell us what makes you unique.
Believe it or not, life an online dater no longer places you on the fringes of society or even in the minority. Online dating has grown up and went into the mainstream, and so you can now happily take upon yourself that the face-saving qualifiers of past times online are now obsolete. And, more importantly, just grasp that they don’t help your cause when meeting others online.
One more thing … try to be original. Yes, I’m sure you really do like the outdoors and want to meet someone who looks excellent in a tux and in jeans, but so does everyone else! Tell us some things about yourself that wouldn’t necessarily come out in an winch conversation with your tax accountant. For example, what are you passionate about? What would you do if no longer had to work for a living? What’s your pet feeling of gelato? Do you secretly wish everyday was sampling day at the grocery store? … now it’ being paid fascinating !
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY
Don’t be fooled thinking telltale fibs will impress that special someone sufficient to get relationship started… it will turn them off! Be your best self.
When you really stop and reckon about it, what do you reckon your new friend’s reaction is going to be if when you meet for the first time it’s evident you’re not the person they thought they were going to be meeting? “Oh .. hi. I see that you’ve been dishonest with me from the get-go here, but hey, I’m still thinking we’ve got a fantastic shot at having an open, trusting relationship for the long-term” Obviously not.
They’re going to be hurt, and disappointed. And, your relationship is unlikely to get past the wave goodbye as your friend gets back in their car to go home.
IT’S NICE TO BE NICE
Okay, so you get a small grumpy once in a while—don’t we all? But , people like nice people. Please be considerate and polite … it will make this total online thing so much more enjoyable for all of us!
There’s an fascinating social phenomenon researchers have learned in online interactions. They’ve found people often change their standards of politeness and diplomacy when a conversation is happening online, versus face-to-face.
Don’t believe it? You might be surprised if you were to go back and look at some of the things you’ve said. Look at some messages you’ve sent, and then consider saying the exact same terms in a face-to-face or a telephone conversation. Signal a small approximate ? Don’t feel too terrible , it happens to the best of us, just try to keep this in mind the next time you’re typing out an email or instant message.
One more thing—please don’t ignore people. A quick “thankfulness , but no thankfulness ” note is so much better than no answer at all. In fact, next time you’re replying to a message on the site, check out the new “Thankfulness but No Thankfulness ” template. It’s a quick way to nicely let someone know you’re not interested in corresponding.
YOU CAN PICK YOUR FRIENDS …
Invite your friends along! Make Activity Groups, go on group dates, try Express Dating, delight in travel events, and just delight in the net together. After all, instant messaging lonely isn’t sufficient to build solid relationships.
Group dating and group events simply make a lot of sense for online dating. Not only does it make those first dates less stressful, it often makes them more fun, and it certainly makes first meetings a much safer proposition.
Have you ever tried Activity Groups? They’re a fantastic way to meet people with common interests in a safe, fun group setting. You can join a group that’s already been made , or you can make your own and invite all your friends to join … and their friends … and their friends … you get the point.
Break OUTA THAT SHELL
Don’t be worried to make the first contact. Online dating makes it simple for all you shy ones out there to break the ice, because you get to do all the early being paid to know each other from the comfort and safety of your own computer.
To start, just send a Flirt or a quick email message saying Hi—and do it often! You might be surprised how many of our fantastic members suffer from lack of attention from their online peers. Not only might you find someone with whom you’re very interested in maintaining contact, but you’ll probably be building someone’s day.
EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS
If your first internet efforts haven’t turned up “the exact one,” don’t despair. Hundreds of new people sign up every day on the site, so just come back to see Who’s New. You may also want to consider expanding your searches—don’t be too intent on sticking to your itemized checklist for eternal mates.
You might also want to try some different searches from time to time. Because there are about a million different things you might find attractive in another person, it’s nice to mix up the criteria you’re searching on once in a while. For example, you can search by their Occupation, any Keyword or combination of keywords you can reckon
of, and many others.
UH OH … THIS MIGHT Really BE FUN!
Don’t be worried to have some fun along your path to relationship happiness! Delight in being paid to know people and know that many pleased relationships and even marriages start with a excellent ol’ friendship. And, don’t rush it!
You’ve heard animals can sense dread ? Well, we humans can be pretty perceptive as well (except for that one guy who just can’t take a hint). So, don’t reckon others can’t sense when you’re frustrated, dejected, conceited, holier than thou, fed up, etc. etc. Place a smile on, and delight in the ride, because even if the first few people you meet aren’t Mr./Mrs. Right, it doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun in excellent
conversations with them.
You may also need to be a small bit patient as you head off into the courageous new world of online dating. Not all marriages are “like at first site,” and even if yours is, it may take a lot of looking before you “site” that special someone. And so, once again … delight in the ride!
USE YOUR NOODLE
Ya know, that gray matter between your ears? That’s your noodle. Use it! Be smart, be cautious, and follow our safety guidelines, your instincts, and the moral fiber in all your dating activity.
Done right, online dating is a lot of fun, and it’s a fantastic way to meet some fantastic people … just question the thousand-plus people we’ve had submit success tales to us in the past few years! So, delight in it, and follow these ten tips, and hopefully we’ll be being paid a success tale from you sometime soon.
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Online Dating 101
by Kevin Koger
Feeling like there’s something that’s just not quite there yet in how you’re going about this total online dating thing? Don’t feel terrible , chances are you’re one of the many people who’re still pretty new to this gig. Heck, internet dating has only been around for about eight years, so obviously no one out there can claim to have all the answers.
But hey, seeing that we’ve been perfecting the art of matching people up online all eight of those years, we’d like to share a small of what we’ve learned about how to make the best of your online experience. Who knows, one of these pointers might be just what you’ve been missing in perfecting your own online dating adventures.
Therefore, without further ramblings, here are the:
TOP 10 TIPS FOR SUCCESSFUL ONLINE DATING
SAY CHEESE!
Look your best and submit a fantastic photo of yourself for your profile photo. A excellent picture really is value a thousand terms , and research shows that you are nearly 10 times more likely to be noticed if you post a photo to your profile.
And, the same stats hold right when you contact someone you’ve noticed on the site. If you don’t have a photo, don’t be surprised if the responses aren’t too quick in coming back.
Now, don’t get mad a start building accusations about all the shallow people out there. While it may be right that some people place too much emphasis on physical appearances, the bottom line is it does make a difference when two people are meeting and building early evaluations of their interest in each other. And, it’s also a trust thing. It is always going to be much simpler to interact with a face than with a blank box.
FRESH IS Excellent
Change your profile picture and greeting occasionally, add photos to your photo album, and login regularly—this will not only get you noticed, but it will help others get a more varied and up-to-date thought of what constitutes the real you.
When something fascinating happens in your life, tell us about it in your profile greeting. This is a fantastic way to let your online friends in on what it might be like to really waste time with you. That’s the main goal of online dating isn’t it, to find people you’d finally like to meet and waste time with face-to-face? Anyways, it’s always more fun to hear about a crazy experience you’ve just had than to read the same ancient descriptions of you and your cat that have been on your profile for months now.
As for photo albums, this is the icing on the cake. Not only do these photos round out and confirm the physical picture your friends are forming of you, but they also go a long way in helping others really see what makes you “you.” The head and shoulders shot of you in your profile photo is nice and all, but when they see you hanging 10, running with your Chihuahua, or shoving a huge stout piece of cheesecake in your mouth … now they’re being paid to know you.
I HAVE CONFIDENCE IN ME
Have fun describing yourself without building excuses about why you’re on the site or who convinced you to finally go online. Tell us what makes you unique.
Believe it or not, life an online dater no longer places you on the fringes of society or even in the minority. Online dating has grown up and went into the mainstream, and so you can now happily take upon yourself that the face-saving qualifiers of past times online are now obsolete. And, more importantly, just grasp that they don’t help your cause when meeting others online.
One more thing … try to be original. Yes, I’m sure you really do like the outdoors and want to meet someone who looks excellent in a tux and in jeans, but so does everyone else! Tell us some things about yourself that wouldn’t necessarily come out in an winch conversation with your tax accountant. For example, what are you passionate about? What would you do if no longer had to work for a living? What’s your pet feeling of gelato? Do you secretly wish everyday was sampling day at the grocery store? … now it’ being paid fascinating !
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY
Don’t be fooled thinking telltale fibs will impress that special someone sufficient to get relationship started… it will turn them off! Be your best self.
When you really stop and reckon about it, what do you reckon your new friend’s reaction is going to be if when you meet for the first time it’s evident you’re not the person they thought they were going to be meeting? “Oh .. hi. I see that you’ve been dishonest with me from the get-go here, but hey, I’m still thinking we’ve got a fantastic shot at having an open, trusting relationship for the long-term” Obviously not.
They’re going to be hurt, and disappointed. And, your relationship is unlikely to get past the wave goodbye as your friend gets back in their car to go home.
IT’S NICE TO BE NICE
Okay, so you get a small grumpy once in a while—don’t we all? But , people like nice people. Please be considerate and polite … it will make this total online thing so much more enjoyable for all of us!
There’s an fascinating social phenomenon researchers have learned in online interactions. They’ve found people often change their standards of politeness and diplomacy when a conversation is happening online, versus face-to-face.
Don’t believe it? You might be surprised if you were to go back and look at some of the things you’ve said. Look at some messages you’ve sent, and then consider saying the exact same terms in a face-to-face or a telephone conversation. Signal a small approximate ? Don’t feel too terrible , it happens to the best of us, just try to keep this in mind the next time you’re typing out an email or instant message.
One more thing—please don’t ignore people. A quick “thankfulness , but no thankfulness ” note is so much better than no answer at all. In fact, next time you’re replying to a message on the site, check out the new “Thankfulness but No Thankfulness ” template. It’s a quick way to nicely let someone know you’re not interested in corresponding.
YOU CAN PICK YOUR FRIENDS …
Invite your friends along! Make Activity Groups, go on group dates, try Express Dating, delight in travel events, and just delight in the net together. After all, instant messaging lonely isn’t sufficient to build solid relationships.
Group dating and group events simply make a lot of sense for online dating. Not only does it make those first dates less stressful, it often makes them more fun, and it certainly makes first meetings a much safer proposition.
Have you ever tried Activity Groups? They’re a fantastic way to meet people with common interests in a safe, fun group setting. You can join a group that’s already been made , or you can make your own and invite all your friends to join … and their friends … and their friends … you get the point.
Break OUTA THAT SHELL
Don’t be worried to make the first contact. Online dating makes it simple for all you shy ones out there to break the ice, because you get to do all the early being paid to know each other from the comfort and safety of your own computer.
To start, just send a Flirt or a quick email message saying Hi—and do it often! You might be surprised how many of our fantastic members suffer from lack of attention from their online peers. Not only might you find someone with whom you’re very interested in maintaining contact, but you’ll probably be building someone’s day.
EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS
If your first internet efforts haven’t turned up “the exact one,” don’t despair. Hundreds of new people sign up every day on the site, so just come back to see Who’s New. You may also want to consider expanding your searches—don’t be too intent on sticking to your itemized checklist for eternal mates.
You might also want to try some different searches from time to time. Because there are about a million different things you might find attractive in another person, it’s nice to mix up the criteria you’re searching on once in a while. For example, you can search by their Occupation, any Keyword or combination of keywords you can reckon
of, and many others.
UH OH … THIS MIGHT Really BE FUN!
Don’t be worried to have some fun along your path to relationship happiness! Delight in being paid to know people and know that many pleased relationships and even marriages start with a excellent ol’ friendship. And, don’t rush it!
You’ve heard animals can sense dread ? Well, we humans can be pretty perceptive as well (except for that one guy who just can’t take a hint). So, don’t reckon others can’t sense when you’re frustrated, dejected, conceited, holier than thou, fed up, etc. etc. Place a smile on, and delight in the ride, because even if the first few people you meet aren’t Mr./Mrs. Right, it doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun in excellent
conversations with them.
You may also need to be a small bit patient as you head off into the courageous new world of online dating. Not all marriages are “like at first site,” and even if yours is, it may take a lot of looking before you “site” that special someone. And so, once again … delight in the ride!
USE YOUR NOODLE
Ya know, that gray matter between your ears? That’s your noodle. Use it! Be smart, be cautious, and follow our safety guidelines, your instincts, and the moral fiber in all your dating activity.
Done right, online dating is a lot of fun, and it’s a fantastic way to meet some fantastic people … just question the thousand-plus people we’ve had submit success tales to us in the past few years! So, delight in it, and follow these ten tips, and hopefully we’ll be being paid a success tale from you sometime soon.
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